Why is saying “sorry” so hard sometimes when it’s needed most from our lips?
Better yet why is saying “I forgive you” just as hard when someone wrongs us?
The Promise that God forgives us is found in Ephesians 4:32- “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, FORGIVING one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Once you have been saved or asked for God’s forgiveness for your sins, nothing that someone can do to you is worse then what we did to Jesus (our sins nailed Him to the cross) and by realizing that it is easier to forgive someone. If you have not asked Jesus to forgive your sins then you cannot fully grasp this type of forgiveness. We have been graciously forgiven of our sins when Jesus died for them on the cross. If anyone should hold a grudge against us it should be Jesus, but the beautiful thing is He never does.
Matthew 6 is the model prayer for how we are to pray to God. This “model prayer” isn’t what we should pray but the “manner” of prayer like Jesus says in verse 9. He is laying out an outline if you will of what prayer consists of. (Giving God reverence, realizing He is in charge, asking for our daily needs, asking for forgiveness of sins, and to help forgive others. To help guide our steps from evil, then affirming who He is.) But I love how after He states this prayer, He emphasizes on one topic. Our daily needs? No, on forgiveness.
verse 14- ” For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father WILL ALSO forgive you. (verse 15) But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
When someone does us wrong, we are quick to defend and become furious with them. Some even go as far as to give a fake “oh its okay no problem” shallow forgiveness but then turn around and talk about the situation to their friends and family. Forgiveness was never there. “But you have no idea what this person did to me.” That may be true and it may have been an awful act, but from my own experience which I choose not to talk about, I have forgiven and have to remember to forget as well.
If we hold onto the pains and hurts that come from “humans”, it will only bring us bitterness. It is so exhausting always having a sour spirit towards someone. I had to finally get rid of the baggage and grudges and I tell you that was a liberating moment in my life. God wants to forgive us and He does it so quickly if we will just forgive others.
I love this last fact about God’s forgiveness..He chooses not to remember our sins no more.
Hebrews 10:17- “”Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.”
Not only does He forgive us but He chooses never to bring them back to memory. How quick are we to rehash old wounds that we have “forgiven”. God has an amazing forgiveness ability and what a great way to show His love to others by letting go of the hurt, laying down our pride, realizing our sin is what nailed Him to the cross, and forgiving that person..It is the least we can do.